What You Tell Yourself Leads to Success or Failure
Top achievers in every field understand that words have the power to condition the mind to succeed or to fail.
Whenever you say something, your mind tries to build a case for it. If you call yourself "stupid" the mind does a subconscious "Google search" on the word stupid and pulls up a list of every stupid thing you've ever done in your life. Now, you have the proof that you are stupid and you start acting that way. If you call yourself a winner, your mind pulls up all your winning moments. And you start acting like a winner.
In fact, if you are not getting the results you want out of life, it can probably be traced to your self talk. What you say to yourself will influence what you think. What you think influences what you do. What you do all the time becomes your habits and your habits determine your results and ultimately, your destiny.
That's why you have to be very careful with whom you associate. You don't want to get any "second hand" negative talk from the people you hang around with. Dis-associate yourself from negative people. They are holding you back.
Top coaches will not tolerate having their players bad-mouthing themselves. They want to create an environment conducive to achieving peak performance; an atmosphere where success is in the air.
Sometimes, even Olympic athletes forget to watch their self-talk. My worst luge crash ever was a result of negative self-talk.
One year before the Salt Lake City Olympics, we were in St. Moritz, Switzerland training for a world cup race. We were training in the morning and the Italians were training in the afternoon. At the time, the Italians were the best. So that afternoon, I went to the track to watch the Italians train. I wanted to see what lines they took down the track. I wanted to learn from the best.
I went to the fastest point of the track, curve thirteen. Watching the Italians rocket down the track at over eighty-five miles per hour was unbelievable. Every time an Italian luger went by I would mutter to myself, "I can't believe I do that." Another luge would barrel down the track and I said to myself, "I can't believe I do that." For two hours, I said it over and over.
Up to that point, I had not had any problems at that track. I was just looking for a way to fine tune my lines down that track.
The next day, on my first run, as I reached Curve thirteen, my mind reminded me, "That's right, Ruben, you CAN'T DO THAT!" And I froze; forgot to steer and I had a horrible crash. I broke my foot, broke my hand, and totaled my sled. End of season.
That was the lowest point of my luge career. At that point I didn't know if I would be able to go to the Olympics. I was hurt and I could not afford another sled, and it was all because a couple of hours of negative self-talk.
I had a pity party for a couple of days but eventually, as I was flying back home from Europe, halfway over the Atlantic, I got my head straight. I took a piece of paper and wrote, "This has been the worst year of my life; the most stressful and frustrating. I am being tested. I will pass the test. I have an opportunity to make an incredible comeback and show what I'm made up of." Then, I started saying to myself, "There is always a way. There is always a way. There is always a way. I will find a way, because there is always a way."
Repeating the phrase, "There is always a way," over and over, when you are facing obstacles, puts your mind in a solution-finding state. It helps you shift your focus away from the problem and into finding a solution.
And I did find a solution. I could not afford to buy another sled, but maybe I could borrow a sled. I started calling some of my best luge buddies and my good friend Adam Cook of the New Zealand Luge Team, loaned me his sled to qualify in the pretrial and race in the Salt Lake Olympics.
Watch what you say to yourself, and remember, there is always a way.
Make it an Olympic Day!
Ruben Gonzalez is a four-time Olympian, a bestselling business author and an award-winning keynote speaker. Ruben will turn your next meeting into an Olympic event you will never forget. For information on how to bring him to your next event, visit PremiereSpeakers.com/Ruben_Gonzalez.
