Kathy Koch PhD

If you’re overwhelmed and tempted to give up, you’re not alone. You may be angry, confused, and challenging authority more than you know is wise. You must know the rest! You’re talented, multi-passionate, concerned, and wanting to solve problems. Right? These are good qualities! Identity, how you define yourself, influences your relationships, academics, future, hopes, beliefs, and so much more. Learn how to have a healthy identity and believe the most important identities of all.

Jesus Christ says to each person, “Come, follow Me.” But, you may think more about following God’s commands than following God. That’s a mistake. Jesus says, “Follow Me.” But, how? In rich detail Kathy will explain a key decision that must be made to fully follow Christ. This relevant and important message will meet needs wherever you are on your spiritual journey. You will be encouraged and challenged.

Dr. Kathy is pro-technology, but she’s not pro what technology is doing to young people’s behaviors, attitudes, and beliefs. Many teens and young adults admit to being frustrated by things like their own impatience and self-centeredness and their competitive, judgmental natures. When she helps them understand how these are related to technology and the power it has over their minds and hearts, they’re compelled to make changes. They’re consistently encouraged by Dr. Kathy’s attitudes, presentation style, and the truths she presents.

8 Great Smarts: Understand How Children are Smart and Why it Matters
All children have eight intelligences that can be used when learning. Each one will be defined and illustrated. Learn how to help your children learn with all 8 and how they are relevant to academic success, spiritual growth, obedience, and career choice. Stop asking, “How smart is my child?” and ask “How is my child smart?”

Five to Thrive: Help Your Children Become Whole and Meet Their Core Needs
Your children have five legitimate needs that drive their wants, choices, actions, and attitudes. (You have the same five needs.) When God meets their needs, your children will be whole, emotionally well, content, and so much more. Learn how to parent so their needs are met in God and other healthy ways. You’ll be refreshed by Dr. Kathy’s practical problem-solving approach to problems your children may be having.

Frustrated, Perfectionistic Kids: Moving Them From “I Can’t” to “I Can”
Are your children easily frustrated by their mistakes? Do they give up quickly or resist taking risks? Do they complain that things are too hard? Learn what contributes to all of this, why it’s dangerous to believe perfection is possible, and what to do.

Identity: Who Do Your Children Think They Are and Why Does it Matter?
Identity – how children define themselves – is extremely important. It controls behavior. Learn other reasons it matters and how it influences children’s academics, relationships, future, hopes, and so much more. Learn how to parent so children will have a healthy identity and believe the most important identities of all.

Motivation that Works: We Can Do Better than “Because I Said So”
Understand how and why your relationship and character development are the foundation of motivation. Learn what to focus on and what beliefs to emphasize so your children will be motivated in the right direction. Learn the four roles you must play, the comebacks to use when children are frustrated, and keys to effective communication that increase motivation. You’ll love the practical ideas!

Technology’s Influence Over Kid’s Beliefs and Behaviors
Understand how technology is influencing children’s beliefs and behaviors (and ours). Discover how technology is the root of some of your biggest concerns (e.g., your children’s complaining, expectations, inability to know what to do after graduation). Learn communication patterns that matter and practical things to do to help children mature even as they keep using technology. (It’s here to stay!) You’ll find hope in this message.

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Change: Teach Them Don’t Tell Them
Are you frustrated because your children aren’t changing in ways you want them to? Learn subtle attitudes and habits that make change difficult so you can decrease their effects. Then learn strategies, relevant Scripture, and a change process that will work!

Compliment and Correct to Powerfully Encourage Your Children
The ways we compliment and correct contribute to either a culture of effort and joy or apathy and fear. How to compliment and correct well, and not criticize, will be explained and modeled. Examples and stories will make the ideas come alive.

Conversations About “Tough Stuff”
Children’s thoughts, feelings, and questions are always important. How do we make it more likely that our children will come to us with their doubts, confusion, and fear? How do we help them share honestly? How do we answer their questions well? Dr. Kathy’s practical, relevant, and fun ideas will help you!

Focus Children’s Thinking to Increase Learning and Decrease Frustration
When children don’t focus when thinking or don’t know what to focus on they become frustrated and less motivated and so do you. Learn how to focus their thinking so they know what to think about, what to think with, and why. The practical and realistic planning model will increase learning and decrease everybody’s frustration. Ideas are relevant for all ages and content areas.

Master Method: Teaching Jesus’ Way
A fresh look at effective teaching by the Master Teacher will inspire you to be more like Him. He was the best teacher! Come to learn something new about Jesus, teaching, and learning. This fresh look at effective teaching will inspire you.

Maximize the Genius Qualities that Make Life More Vivid
Your children may have much in common with Edison and Einstein! It’s very probable that you and your children are blessed with many of the twelve qualities that make life more vivid. They’re super powers! Let’s discover them and how you can awaken them and keep them alive.

Parenting Power Words
Parents can consistently use strategic power words to efficiently and effectively direct children’s thinking, beliefs, choices, character, attitudes, and behavior. Using these power words will increase cooperation and obedience, decrease frustration and arguments, and build healthier parent-child relationships. Curious? You’ll have to attend to hear some of Dr. Kathy’s favorites. You will not be disappointed.

Resiliency: A Necessary Ability for Today’s Times
Resiliency, bouncing back quickly from difficulties, starts as a choice. It can become a part of who we are. It must! Dr. Kathy will explain the many benefits of resiliency so you’ll be highly motivated to parent so your children develop this quality. The suggestions will work and you will be able to create an environment that makes resiliency more likely. We and our children must recover from trauma and stress.

Strategies to Encourage First-Time Obedience
Strong-willed children and others can struggle to be obedient. They may choose to debate, argue, and delay instead. Learn the four foundations of obedience and several strategies that can immediately improve your relationships and children’s behavior.

Dr. Kathy’s upbeat and humorous style; her obvious love for God, life, and the audience; and truths and stories the audience can relate to will cause everyone to connect with Kathy. Therefore, people will be more open to new thoughts and feelings. They will respond with generous contributions. As Kathy tells part of her story, people will respond with laughter, tears, and “ah-ha” revelations. She will refresh people’s understandings about the value of life – every life! Therefore, they’ll be inspired to live their lives fully as God intended. When people understand they must be pro-living, their pro-life stand is strengthened. They understand in new and rich ways that God creates everyone intentionally and every person has a right to find out why they are who they are. Every person was created on purpose with purpose by an awesome God who knew what He was doing! Believing this changes everything!

Every child need to know they’re smart. Being smart empowers them to believe in their todays and tomorrows, to expect some learning to be easy, and to study when something isn’t. Being smart gives them hope. If there are 8 distinct and proven ways of being smart (word, logic, picture, music, body, nature, people, and self), why do some children not believe in their abilities? We can parent and teach so they don’t rely on only academic grades, a GPA, and comparisons to others. We can help them understand that if they’re artistic, musical, or athletic, it’s because of how they are smart. These 8 smarts are relevant to academic success, spiritual growth, obedience, and career choice. Being smart isn’t just about school! Stop asking, “Is my child smart?” and ask “How is my child smart?”

Children who are resilient bounce back quickly from difficulties and disappointments. Resiliency starts as a choice and can become a part of who they are. It must! Children who are not resilient will be forever defined by trauma and stress. They’ll be pessimistic; stuck in their anger and grief; and give up quickly on God, themselves, and others. When they’re resilient, they’ll use effort, learn new skills, and be effective problem solvers. Dr. Kathy will help you parent so your children develop this quality. Her practical techniques work and you will be able to create an environment that makes resiliency more likely. You and your children must recover from trauma and stress!

Many teens are overwhelmed and giving up. They’re anxious, confused, angry, and too many are suicidal. They must know the rest! They’re talented, multi-passionate, concerned, and wanting to solve problems. These are good qualities! How children see and define themselves matters greatly because identity controls behavior. Who they think they are is who they will be. Identity influences children’s relationships, academics, future, hopes, beliefs, and so much more. Learn how to parent so children will have a healthy identity and believe the most important identities of all. (This message is appropriate for parents, teens, and young adults either separately or together.)

Children’s thoughts and feelings are always important. In times of confusion and crisis, they matter even more. How do we make it more likely that our children will come to us with their questions, confusions, doubts, and fears about God, themselves, and the culture? How can we help them be honest and how can we carefully answer their questions? Dr. Kathy Koch’s practical, relevant, and fun ideas will help your children know they’re safe and will be heard and helped.